Life is not easy and sometimes, the people that we have to go through life with don’t make it any easier.
We’re surrounded by so many societal influences and expectations that shape our decisions and choices. Oftentimes, we’re torn between what we want to do or what makes us happy and what society expects from us.
From the time we wake up, we’re worried about so many things as we try to be the best version of ourselves.
But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that I am not supposed to be worried about 80% of the things I am worried about. I am constantly learning not to prioritize the comfort of other people at my expense.
And I think we should all put ourselves first and not worry about the following things:
13 Things Not to Worry About
1. Things beyond your control.
You can’t control everything that happens in life, so worrying about events or outcomes beyond your control is often unproductive. It just distracts you from focusing on the things that are within your control.
Do this instead: Focus on what you can influence, and let go of the rest.
2. The past.
The past is unchangeable.
While you can learn from your past experiences, constantly worrying about things that have already happened won’t do much good. You can’t go back and make a difference.
Do this instead: Learn from your past and focus on the present and the future.
3. Other people’s opinions.
It’s impossible to please everyone, and not everyone will like you or agree with you.
People will always have opinions about anything and everything. Worrying excessively about what others think of you can be emotionally draining. It can make you go in circles in an attempt to make everyone happy – something that’s impossible to achieve anyway!
Do this instead: Be true to yourself, value your own thoughts and stop worrying about other people’s opinions.
4. The future.
While it’s essential to plan for the future, excessive worry about what might happen can lead to anxiety.
Do this instead: Focus on setting achievable goals, making plans, and taking action to shape your future positively.
5. Aging.
Somehow, some people have been made to believe that once people turn 30, they become dust and unrecognizable.
We’re in a world where people are obsessed with looking young, and they will do anything to stop the natural process.
Do this instead: Remember that aging is natural (And inevitable). Our age is proof of the life we have lived and the adventures we have done.
6. Perfection.
Striving for perfection in everything you do can be exhausting and unrealistic.
Do this instead: Accept that making mistakes is a part of being human and can lead to personal growth and learning. It’s great to have high standards, but not everything has to always be perfect.
7. Comparing yourself to others.
Constantly comparing yourself to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. Remember that everyone has their unique journey and strengths.
Do this instead: Focus on your own progress and achievements.
8. Small daily inconveniences.
Minor issues, like traffic jams, long lines, or minor annoyances, are a part of life. They’re temporary and not worth excessive worry.
Do this instead: Keep a broader perspective – a bad 10 mins doesn’t mean you’ve had a bad day.
9. Negative hypothetical scenarios.
Worrying about worst-case scenarios that may never happen can be a waste of mental energy.
Our minds can play tricks on us and it is easy to get stuck into the endless negative possibilities that our life could take.
Do this instead: Put your energy into preparing for challenges and adapt when they arise.
10. Rumors and gossip.
People may spread rumors or gossip about you or others, but these often have little bearing on your life in the long run.
Do this instead: Unless you need to stand up for someone or yourself, try to ignore their negativity – it’s usually not worth your time.
11. The judgment of strangers.
What strangers think about you is largely irrelevant to your well-being. Do not let other people’s thoughts preoccupy you.
Do this instead: Keep your attention on your own thoughts and feelings.
12. Your body.
We should all strive to be healthy versions of ourselves, but sometimes we fail to realize that bodies come in different shapes and sizes. We end up worried and stressed because we think our bodies should be different.
Do this instead: Work on learning to accept your body as it is and love it the way it is.
13. Uncontrollable external events.
Catastrophic global events or natural disasters that you can’t control should not be a constant source of worry.
While it’s essential to be aware and take appropriate precautions, excessive anxiety about these matters won’t change the outcome.
Do this instead: Help where you can, spread awareness, get involved in community service and volunteer. Stick to your values, but be realistic about what you’re able to do.
Can You Totally Eliminate Worrying?
Worrying is a natural human response to various situations, but it’s essential to recognize that not everything is worth worrying about.
Excessive worry can lead to stress and anxiety, which can be damaging to your mental and physical health.
It’s important to redirect your energy and attention toward more productive and positive aspects of life. If you find yourself worrying excessively, you can also consider practicing relaxation or mindfulness techniques.
These will tame your mind and reduce stressful thoughts.
It will also help you stay in touch with the things you can control. If the issue persists, you can consider seeking support from a mental health professional to manage your worries effectively.
Editor’s note: This article was originally published Oct 15, 2023 and has been updated to improve reader experience.
Photo by Liza Summer